tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post6683480485976451718..comments2024-03-27T22:44:20.979-04:00Comments on My Next 20 Years of Living: Through My Care Giver Eyes - Second GuessingRetired Knitterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13662288640032813770noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-80251880092913172352011-11-10T12:14:33.042-05:002011-11-10T12:14:33.042-05:00You are the best daughter for your mom. If I were ...You are the best daughter for your mom. If I were in your shoes, I' do the same for my parents. You may find yourself thinking twice sometimes, but your heart will always tell your to take care of your mom yourself.Frank Damonhttp://seniorliving-sanantonio.com/independent-living-retirement-community-san-antonio/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-33219976939438470982011-09-18T16:27:41.762-04:002011-09-18T16:27:41.762-04:00when you start second guessing yourself, remind yo...when you start second guessing yourself, remind yourself that you are doing what you think is best. there isn't time for discussions, meetings, etc. you needed to act quickly because who knows what might've happened had you not acted so quickly.g-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470916440478636907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-48153617539156967512011-09-01T07:41:54.060-04:002011-09-01T07:41:54.060-04:00Hi Elaine .. you've done the best you can and ...Hi Elaine .. you've done the best you can and here you've set out your feelings - I can understand these totally. I'm the only one caring - I honestly don't know what the others think ... it appears it's a waste of time and a 'pain' for them.<br /><br />I do the most I can for my Mama and we've had some wonderful times, despite her being bedridden for 4.5 years ..I am grateful she is nursed - though that hasn't been perfect .. not that it's the carers fault. I'm around and have had a trusted 'healer' who came into our lives 4 years ago - and who looks on Mum as special, and my mother is devoted to Janice. Just very blessed to have the experience - <br /><br />Our lives aren't perfect, we're not ready for the unexpected and it's been interesting to see how I've turned out (better than expected!) .. but we do our best - and my mother has been very grateful - again I'm lucky there.<br /><br />No guilt - you've done your best .. others don't look down these paths .. I'm told one day they may come to their senses .. <br /><br />Keep going - you're so right with your love for your mother and that's the most important thing. Many thoughts - HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-54380011142782123782011-08-31T22:16:16.450-04:002011-08-31T22:16:16.450-04:00Don't second guess, you did what had to be don...Don't second guess, you did what had to be done. If anything, you are extending your Mom's life, for that the family should be grateful. Both my parents are deceased before they became unable to care for themselves. I haven't walked in your shoes. You are a strong, brave lady. I don't know if I could do it. It is one day at a time for Mom and you, all of us for that matter.Noofyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05006035965295127899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-1018608598838200082011-08-31T19:28:25.663-04:002011-08-31T19:28:25.663-04:00It is a hard thing what you are doing. I did it t...It is a hard thing what you are doing. I did it too. I too forgot to ask the family what they wanted.<br /><br />My advise now to everyone - make know your plans for when you reach old age and need them. Help your kids.<br /><br />sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-15135654688442611292011-08-31T13:04:28.166-04:002011-08-31T13:04:28.166-04:00I found your blog while googling reviews for knitt...I found your blog while googling reviews for knitting needles. I loved it and had to keep reading. I started at this post and you have me in tears. I too one day will be taking care of my mom. She is getting confused at times already and it is just a matter of time before she is too much for my dad alone. You really hit home with your post. You are right there will always be someone upset with choices we make but in the end you know what you are doing is a great blessing you your mom (and you!). God Bless you!<br />KatieNatural as can behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10276994607081535918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-812951198483259605.post-52335569541236278092011-08-31T12:31:02.486-04:002011-08-31T12:31:02.486-04:00I understand second guessing yourself. I hope the ...I understand second guessing yourself. I hope the rest of your family has grown to accept your mom being with you. Sometimes people are hurt because they weren't asked but would not have chosen differently anyway. <br /><br />All good people do the best they can with what they know at any given time. A year or five or twenty later and looking back might make anyone think choice B may have been better than A, but that is hindsight at best, most likely self doubt and selective memory at what was present at that previous time.<br /><br />Try not to doubt yourself. You are a good person with the best possible intentions.Knittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194307677813885580noreply@blogger.com