Sometimes I feel like I have nothing to say.
Then I read a post on another blog and I find I am commenting with more than just a few words.
That is what happened this morning.
One of the blogs I follow is called A Simple Happy Life. She posted about being a new empty nester and the emotions of that state in life. It sparked a realization in me.
I was an Empty Nester a while back with all the emotions of that state. I don't think I am now.
That was a new idea for me.
Both my kids moved home separate times after moving out the first time. It seems to be the way of it in this economy. But now they both have property that they live in and one is married. I doubt either will move back home again.
I remember when they both moved back home and I was joyful. But I also remember after a few months feeling like this was not how they should be living their lives. And I began to want independence for them again, while still enjoying their company at home. When they moved out I was happy for them. The house was quiet again and I was sad, but this was how if is supposed to be I thought.
Now they are in their 30's. Although they both have their "adult wings", they would still always be welcome if needed. They will always have the option of a roof over their heads in my home as long as I live, but I enjoy my own separate life now, and I am slowing down so live-in family under my roof would be a stretch for me. I know that they are supposed to be on their own, and this is the way it is supposed to be.
Now as I approach my older years I take care of myself - and must focus doing a good job of that because I don't want them to have any responsibility for me ... I have lived through that with my mom. It is a very hard path to travel and I don't want that for them. It is not the way it is supposed to be!!
My nest is empty only if I expect one of them to move back home. I don't. My nest is perfect the way it is. So it is not empty.
Life is a cycle - so it is said.
Funny, I don't think we truly know that in our hearts until we live through it.
Guess I still have something to say.